Reflections On The End

I wasn’t really aware about how other countries or cultures deal with someone passing away, so I wanted to share my experience with it. Here in the Philippines, the wake for viewing lasts for about a week before the person is buried. Family members take turns watching over their late loved one 24/7 during this time. There needs to be at least one person present as relatives and friends from different places would visit.

My brother’s wake was held at our ancestral home, and I was one of the family members who stayed up late with him. Since we are from a Christian family, there is a service by a pastor every night at 7PM. He talks about life after death, loss and comfort. Each night, one family member would give a speech or tribute for my brother for a few minutes as part of the service. We serve snacks and drinks to everyone who comes over.

During this experience, I have reflected on a lot of things. Among these thoughts, five questions struck me. These are my reflections:

1. Are you spending enough time with your loved ones?

One of my other brothers told me that there were two types of crying during the wake: the kind that is remembering the happy memories and hoping for more, and the kind that is feeling regretful over things that could have been. In a way, what he said made a lot of sense to me.

It’s always better to spend time with your loved ones while you can. Mend broken relationships if it is within your power to do so. You don’t want to forever be haunted by words left unsaid or things left undone.

Life is so much more meaningful when shared with those who matter.

2. What is your impact to the world around you?

You never know how much influence you have to some people. You have a character, a personality that ONLY YOU will ever have. This is picked up by family, friends, neighbors, or office mates.

Do you radiate warmth or evoke annoyance?
Do you shine and make people smile?
Do you walk around with a cloud above your head?
Do you ignore those who reach out to you?
Do you help others any chance you get? 

Even if we are not aware of it, we create an impact to the people within our circle.

How would you like to affect those around you?

3. What significant things have you done in your life?

We all have a couple of years of existence in this world. There are things about you that will be remembered by many, and some sweet memories by a few.

Were you a force to be reckoned with at school or university? Did you join any extra-curricular activities that you were interested in? Are you immersed in your hobbies or work?

Are you unstoppable when you are pursuing your passion? Are you the life of the party when there are events? Were you born a leader or a jack of all trades? Do you keep to yourself while being focused on a particular thing?

What are the most important things you have wanted to do or are doing?

4. Are you fulfilling your purpose?

Some believe that we are here because of pure chance. However, there’s just too much evidence in nature and my experiences for me to believe in that. I feel it in my heart that each one of us were made with a purpose.

We all have a role to play in this life. Whether we realize it or not, there are so many people around us that play a big part in making our lives more comfortable or better.

Think about it. Look around you. Do you know the people behind the creation of your smartphone, laptop, fridge, sofa, TV, blankets, plumbing? Even the building itself where you are had to be built by carpenters, architects, or engineers. Can you imagine a world without leaders or managers? Without nurses or doctors? Firemen? Police? You get the idea.

Even strangers that make you smile and feel better for the day might be fulfilling their purpose in this life. We all have a specific set of skills or character that we can contribute to the world. Some do it everyday. And they make the world a better place to live in.

Do you?

5. Are you secure for eternity?

John 11:25-26 

Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die; and whoever lives by believing in me will never die. Do you believe this?

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Feel free to share your insights on my reflections in the comments below.


13 thoughts on “Reflections On The End

  1. I believe in life after death – when my sister died on the operating table then came back to life I had a dream where she was walking with some people on a hill in our hometown the people wore long hippie like robes and it was a lovely sunny day – I told her about the dream and she she told me she was floating above the operating table and was in some flats at the top of the hospital – I said that she was crossing to the other side with those people escorting her (we all get help to the other side when we die ) but she asked God for more time – she died 3 years later I have had a few dreams of her where I met her since – after having spent six wks away from my home town when I got back I had a dream where I met her (Ruth) and she said “where have you been ?” – our loved ones can come and visit us and go back to heaven knowing that they will meet up with us when we die and go to join them

    Heaven is a busy place too you can study, hang out with friends old and new – your brother is at peace and thank God he knew Jesus before he died

    sorry for you loss


  2. Mm ’tis true that we all have a purpose. Some of us just need time before we can finally find it eh?

    My condolences btw. Thank you for sharing such words and post. It really does make one think about life, the people in it and especially what we do with our time.
    Do we spend it watching tv / movies by ourselves?

    Spend it with friends? Family?

    Do we neglect certain people / tasks to fulfill the demands of the other?

    Damn. Hope you are doing well Liz. Talk to me if you feel the need to, yeah? I’ll be here,
    as will all the other PBIY family, I’m sure 🙂

    Your pal,

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  3. I lost my husband of 60 years , five years ago. I have truly be blessed by God as I have learned to be independent. I married very young and went to my husband’s house, from my father’s house. I find that I have developed many of my husbands traits and so am still a part of him. Thank you Lord God for giving me such a long beautiful time with my husband and thank You for giving me a new independence as I cast all my cares upon you.


    1. Truly, your husband is now at peace with our Father in heaven. It’s heartwarming to know how you have dealt with the loss with love in your heart and gratitude for all the time you have spent together. I think it’s beautiful. ❤


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